January 9, 2012
Four Seasons of Marriage by Dr. Gary Chapman–a super good book!
Here’s a summary about the Four Seasons of Marriage by Dr. Gary Chapman–a super good book that I’ve been using to help my relationship with my family and friends grow stronger ^^
About Dr. Chapman
- married for over 40 years
- marriage counselor for over 30 years
- more than 3.5 million of his book, The 5 Love Languages sold worldwide
Summary about the book
- There are 4 seasons in marriage
- Winter: distant, discouraged, dissatisfied
- Springtime: hope, openness, anticipation
- Summer: satisfied, comfortable, enjoying life
- Fall: negligence, uncertainty, unsettled, apprehensive
- 7 strategies to bring your marriage back into the spring/summer
- Deal with past failures: failure doesn’t destroy marriage, only unconfessed and unforgiven failure will
- Attitude is the difference maker
- negative/critical attitudes lead to fall/winter
- positive/affirming attitudes lead to spring/summer
- Discover and speak their primary love language to fill their love tank
- 5 love languages:
- words of affirmation
- quality time
- physical touch
- acts of service
- physical touch
- 5 love languages:
- Develop the art of empathetic listening
- Understand their thoughts, feelings, desires and affirm them
- Discover the joy of helping your spouse succeed in what God uniquely designed them to do
- Maximize your differences: write what you complain about and look at it positively
- Implement the power of positive influence
- You can’t control your spouse’s behavior, but you can control your own, which will influence your spouse
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